"KISS MY GRITS"

PROMISES

I promised myself after the "lurong living paleo challenge" ended that i would conquer one of my fears in my personal life ....dating. I have survived 2 abusive marriages, bruises heal but the emotional scars take longer to get thru. This past year of crossfitting has been life changing for me not just physically but emotionally as well. With every accomplishment in crossfit i became more confident, empowered and i finally felt that i finally closed those emotional wounds and could move forward.

CHOICES
I work 50+ hrs per week ALONE and  on the NIGHT shift, i am busy with 2 active high school children, 95% of my friends are married with kids, and at crossfit 95% of the men are in their 20s-30's...so my potential dating pool is non existent. I made the choice to try online dating, because i really am sure Prince charming is not going to sweep me off my feet at Whole Foods Supermarket or at Petco when i am buying cat food. Yes i have cats...got something to say about it? 

THE COMMENT

This one dude decides he likes me and tries to flirt with me online and i nicely turn him down. I guess he didn't understand no, because he then sends me an email, which i again politely tell him no again. Then i receive his 2nd email in which he wrote "WHAT? no one wants to date a power lifter chick, sex maybe" ...WOW! In my profile i had a picture of myself at my competition right before i was going to dead lift...I wanted it to show 1. i was in shape and 2. fitness is apart of my life. In the past this type of comment would have reduced me to tears and i would have taken myself off the site and hid myself away. My initial reaction was shock, then i became angry and best of all i laughed. I was shocked i don't feel i look overly muscular. I was angry this man didn't know me and was judging and bullying me based on a picture. I laughed because i have heard this type of reaction by men to women who crossfit and elite athletes..like our Olympic swimming , track, volleyball, gymnastic team, this idiot was lumping me in with all these BEAUTIFUL , ATHLETIC women....AWESOME!!

MY RESPONSE

 "Dear sir
my mother always told me "if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all" obviously your mother never taught you any manners. I truly find it hard to believe that a man would not find a woman who is happy, healthy and fit , attractive but then it stands to reason you are none of those. I also find it hard to fathom  why a man would be so intimidated by my strength and power, but then you must be a very small and powerless man to attempt to degrade and bully someone you don't know. Thank you for proving my gut instinct to reject your advances , correct.  Oh yeah i am not a "power lifter" I AM A CROSSFITTER....if your going to pick on me,GET MY SPORT STRAIGHT!!!" 
I reported him to the dating site administrators so he is being investigated....lmao! As for me, i will continue to move  forward, being a happier, better, faster, fitter and stronger me....awesome progress don't ya think?

THANK YOU

On my face book page, twitter and amrap4life.com site i have received so much support, encouragement and kind words by old friends, family and crossfit friends and i  truly appreciate you all...no one should be bullied because they are different!

i love this song and music video by Pink! Thankyou Pink, i am perfect!

 Here is a recent article written for the women of crossfit by a man who appreciates us..... http://soc.li/QQSHHxF .